Younger, Wiser, Me

If there is one thing that I like about growing up, it is one of those moments where I realize that who I am today is the result of a younger version of me who was experiencing the growing pains and feeling feelings she had to endure so that one day she would be able to walk away from certain situations more easily than if she had not.

Today, I stumbled upon this tweet of mine from back when I was 22.

Btw, it's not only my Twitter that's full of gems from my younger days. This blog certainly has even more meaningful ones.

Look, obviously I lived through that. I can't remember precisely the exact moment when I posted that tweet and who exactly came to my mind - but I can assure you she was not exactly feeling what she thought she was feeling. She was not wrong - my guess is she just found that quote to match the background music that she was listening to, and she was enjoying it so much that she was dreaming it. I can assure you, she was not experiencing that. 

Fast forward 6 years later, her older version self read it and is able to look back at recent events and thought of how much she owed her 22-year old self for surviving her last heartbreak. She now recalls how she learned to walk away from people who only love their idea of her, but not her. Or people who love her but never made her feel loved. 

I don't know who needs to read this, or better yet, who will read it (that was never my point for writing anyway). But I want you to know that you are a loveable person. We are all a little hard to love. We are all messy and needy and have our own baggage. That's just our human experience. So it makes sense that people love you. There will be people out there who love you and people who love you. You need to know the difference. You know the difference when you realize that you have to determine your own worth. Don't settle for just about anyone who tells you they love you. If you don't feel loved, please walk away.

You should not have to convince yourself that they love you. You should just know. Because you feel it. Because they make sure that you feel it.